Relationships

 

If we could read the secret history of our enemies we should find in each man's life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility.

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

 

Jean-Paul Sartre said: “Hell is other people!”

How often do we feel this during times of challenge, conflict and turmoil in our relationships – with partners, kids, family, friends and co-workers? What can mindfulness practice offer in terms of increasing awareness of unhelpful patterns in ourselves, and also in terms of finding skilful actions in our relating with others?

Mindfulness training increases our self-awareness, helping us make a distinction between our direct, "in the moment" experience and our judgments and interpretations of these emotional and bodily states. This clarity enables us to more easily break the cycles of automatic reactivity and undo the grip of negative stories and rigid beliefs about ourselves and others, based on past negative experiences. We have the potential to disengage from the inner critic and become more self-compassionate, and to see others with more curiosity and compassion too.  We get more comfortable with hearing and seeing with fresh ears and eyes.

Making changes in our relationships often involves being less defensive, more honest and assertive.  Mindfulness training can help us explore and practice these uncomfortable new behaviours with a little more grace and ease.  

Come and explore what an 8 week mindfulness training course can offer you.

 

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Course locations

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Location
Time
Venue
Camperdown
Mondays 6.30pm - 9:00pm
The Buddhist Library
90 Church Street, Camperdown
Bondi Junction (Night)
Tuesdays 6.30pm - 9:00pm
Loft and Earth
70 Bronte Rd, Bondi Junction
Bondi Junction (Day)
Wednesday 10:00am - 12:30pm
Loft and Earth
70 Bronte Rd, Bondi Junction
Artarmon
Thursdays 6.30pm - 9:00pm
139 Artarmon Rd, Artarmon
Northern Beaches
Mondays 6.30pm - 9:00pm
Mona Vale Surf Life Saving Club
Surfview Road, Mona Vale
 
 
Armadale (Day)
Tuesdays 10.00am - 12:30pm
Chi Flow Yoga  
Suite 3A 727 High St, Armadale
Moonee Ponds (Night)
Wednesdays 6.30pm - 9:00pm
Moonee Ponds Mind Body Health
23 Gladstone St, Moonee Ponds
Hawthorn (Night)
Thursday 6:30pm - 9:00pm
Melbourne Centre for Mindfulness
16 Trinity Place, East Melbourne
 
 

What will you be learning in the course?

presence

Focus and presence

Cultivate more concentration and capacity to be in the moment with what matters to you most, here and now.

The practice helps interrupt endless rehearsing the future and rehashing the past and to arrive in the moment, again and again.

Savour your precious life.
Stop procrastinating.
Become present with loved ones and your work

clarity

Emotional calming

Reduce reactivity, learn to befriend your emotions and to express them in ways that set clear and caring boundaries.

The practice helps to digest difficult emotions and cultivate more positive states including calm, interest, warmth, vitality and compassion

Dissolve anxiety and irritation.
Find more peace and ease.
Understand the process of your own mind

focus

Clarity and wisdom

See your patterns and values with more clarity so that your actions can be more beneficial to yourself and others

The practice helps to grow confidence in building new habits and more choice in responding to challenges

Be curious.
Recognise your situation.
Act with courage.

How can the MBSR course help me in my relationships?

Over the eight weeks in the MBSR course - through practice, experiential exercises, reflection, discussion, poetry, stories and theory, and sharing in the group - we will be:

  • Developing awareness and insights into our own style of relating
  • Developing healthy emotional regulation strategies
  • Using the body and mind as resources in moments of tension
  • Developing a greater understanding of the origin of one's own suffering in relationships
  • Exploring the kinds of meanings and thinking we bring to everyday exchanges that are perhaps not so helpful
  • Bringing mindfulness principles more consciously into your relationships 
  • Cultivating steady empathy, compassion and positive regard for ourselves and others, especially during difficult times

 

What People Are Saying

I gained a lot from this course! I would definitely recommend it to friends and already have. I hadn’t been feeling ‘myself’ at the start of the course, and hadn’t been for almost a year. I had long term RSI which has gotten better in the 8 weeks – not 100% yet, but better than 6-8 months of physio beforehand! I feel myself again, and friends and work colleagues have noticed I seem happier, less stressed and I feel able to cope with stresses easier.

Tracey, 2017

Inner strength, confidence through knowing myself better, a more positive view of my future knowing that all I need is to turn into my pain and remember it will pass

Anna, 2016

It has definitely changed relationships in my life. Also it has helped me deal with confrontation a lot better. It has helped me become a lot more task focussed and given me the skill to see where my mind often wanders and why it goes to certain places. Loved the course and would recommend it to everyone.

Lacee, 2015

The course has made me feel a lot calmer in a busy life. It has reminded me to stop and smell the roses. It has taught me that awareness – is just that – not complicated! That meditation is not about stopping all thoughts but acknowledging them and letting them pass and then focussing back on the here and now.

Lisa 2016

It is hard to verbalise the surprisingly profound impact this experience (so much more than a course) has had on me. It has been so complete—spiritually, emotionally, professionally and intellectually.

Patrick 2016